Just as Allah has taught us to fulfill the social rights of our parents, siblings, and other relatives, in the same way He has also taught us how to fulfill the rights of our relatives and other people who live in our society.

So today we will learn that when we go to someone’s home or meet someone—whether they are siblings, relatives, or people around us—which rights we should take care of, and which actions we should avoid so that they do not feel hurt or experience any discomfort.

Always Ask Permission to Enter

The first and most basic right is that whenever we go to anyone’s house, morally and ethically, we should ask for permission while entering their home. We should always avoid entering someone’s house without their permission. Every house has its own privacy, and people have their own personal matters.

So, if we enter a house without permission or without knocking on the door, it will hurt them, and this act is completely against Shariah. Allah Almighty has always commanded that when you go to someone’s house or take anything from someone, always take their permission. Only if they give permission should that work be done.

If a person politely refuses to let you come into their house due to some special reasons, then accept it with love, not with anger or negative thinking. Every house has its own circumstances, and not everyone likes it when someone comes to their house at any time.

Besides this, if someone comes to our house without permission and we do not want them to enter, we should not say anything harsh directly. Later, in private, we should talk with love and explain that there are some personal matters going on in our house, and if you come later, we will feel very good.

That is why it is said that religion teaches sacrifice. Religion says that treat well the one who treats you well, and even the one who treats you badly, still treat them with goodness.

Visting For Short Time

The second and one important right among the remaining rights is that when we go to someone’s house, we should not stay there for a long time without any need or reason. This is not a good habit at all. We should stay only according to need and requirement. Deen teaches us this principle. If we go to visit a sick person at someone’s house, we should meet him only for such a time that he does not get tired of us. Ask about his condition, pray for his health, and encourage the family that InshaAllah he will get better. Giving too many opinions or extra talk should be completely avoided, because this makes the patient uncomfortable and the family also feels bad.

Similarly, if we go to someone’s house on an invitation, we should eat the food, sit for a short while, and then return to our home. Staying for too long is not considered good. Many times we sit at someone’s house for a long time without any reason, but we forget that the house belongs to someone else. Even if they do not show it outwardly, in their heart they may wish that we should leave. That is why staying too long is not appropriate. The same rule should be followed on occasions of happiness or sorrow. If we spend our valuable time in useless and unnecessary things instead of the worship of Allah, then our time will never become truly valuable.

Respecting the Privacy of Others

The third important right among the important rights is that when we go to someone’s house, we must keep in mind that we respect and protect their privacy. We should not take an interest in their personal matters, nor should we ask questions about their private life. This is completely against Shariah. No one should be personally forced to share their matters or life details. We have already written about this in detail in the given post https://noorulilmonlinequranacademy.com/right-behaviour-with-neighbours/ Moreover, if we visit someone’s house and their home conditions are not good, we should not talk about it with them; rather, we should only make dua that Allah grants them a good life and keeps them happy.

In the same way, no one should share their own personal and private matters with others. In a person’s life, there can be some matters and issues that he cannot even share with his parents or siblings. Similarly, a woman should be careful not to share her own or her husband’s personal matters when visiting someone’s house. Likewise, a husband should not share matters related to his wife with outsiders.

Leaving With Dua

At the end, one more important right among the important rights is that when we are about to leave someone’s house, we should say goodbye to them in a good and polite manner. If there was any shortcoming from our side, we should forgive it, and if any word or thing felt bad, we should also forget it. We should make duas of goodness and blessings for the household, that Allah, just as they fed us and served us as guests, may He also provide for them in the same way. And when they come to our house, we should not fall short in any service; whatever we can do, we should do it.

And finally, when we leave someone’s house, we should leave with dua, good intentions, and positive thoughts. One more important point is that in our society, when people return from someone’s house, they often backbite and say bad things behind their backs, which Allah strongly dislikes. Therefore, if we cannot speak good, then at least we should not speak bad. When a guest leaves our house, we should not say that he ate too much or stayed too long. Remember, the Prophet Muhammad (S.A.W) said that a guest is Allah’s mercy; he comes with his sustenance and leaves taking away worries and hardships. May Allah grant us all the ability to do good for everyone and to keep love in our hearts for one another. Ameen.