In Islam, everything has its proper way and manner, whether the action is small or large. This is the beauty of Islam that even the smallest good deed carries a great reward. Similarly, conversation also has its proper method and manners, which teach a person how to live in society and how to speak, when to speak, and when to remain silent.

Listening Without Interrupting

First of all, it is necessary that whenever we listen to someone—whether in a gathering or in private—we listen to everything that person says carefully. We should not interrupt again and again in between, nor ask unnecessary questions. Even if someone says something wrong, we should respond to it only after they have finished speaking.

Islam commands us that whether it is our parents, a teacher, or any elder who is advising us, interrupting their words is very wrong. Nowadays, people think that they have grown up and that their elders do not know anything, so why do they keep advising us? But this is completely wrong. Parents always advise for our good and our well-being, and no matter how grown up we become, in their eyes we are always like small children.

Avoiding Arguments With Elders

The second important point is to reduce arguments. The more we get involved in arguments, the more difficulties we create for ourselves. It is not necessary to respond to everything. We have already discussed this in detail in our previous post.

Allah Almighty has commanded us to forgive, not to compete or argue with everyone. In front of parents and teachers, we should remain silent because every word they say is guidance for us. Arguing with them is not appropriate at all. Arguing is as if you are trying to prove them wrong, and this shows that we are standing against our parents.

If any other person hurts your feelings, you should learn to forgive them. Taking revenge immediately is not a good thing.

Lowering The Voice

The third most important point is that we should always keep our voice low. Screaming and shouting are not the actions of civilized human beings. The difference between humans and animals is that Allah has given humans awareness and understanding, while animals do not have it. If we do whatever we want without thinking and speak however we feel, then the difference between us and animals will disappear.

Always keep your voice low, do not shout in anger, and learn to control yourself. Speak simply, with love and kindness. Especially women should keep their voices low. Allah has said that in a home where a woman’s voice is louder than a man’s voice, blessings do not enter that home.

Ending Talk With Salam

The final point is that whenever we end a conversation with someone, we should do so with salaam. Offer salaam with love and affection, and say goodbye while keeping love in each other’s hearts. Even if the conversation was such that you and the other person had opposing views, and some dislike or negativity remained in the hearts, ending it with salaam helps remove that negativity to some extent.

Whether they are parents, teachers, or anyone else, always leave after giving salaam. Invite one another to say salaam. May Allah Almighty create love for one another in our hearts. Ameen